心境 心靜 心淨 不惹塵埃

愛抱怨的人 心未靜也未淨 塵埃隨來隨沾惹

在愛抱怨的人旁邊的人 心若靜也淨 即可避免接取其塵埃

生命之課題 易解 不易做

人生之修行

No one's perfect.

Yes, but not everyone knows that.

Those who judge too easily don't know that.

"Silence makes one an accomplice."

當一個人遇到他人或自己的一個團體遭遇某種不利的狀況,
是這個人可以做點什麼來幫忙的, 但這個人卻沒去幫忙,
任由他人或自己的團體深陷難處的時候,
其實從某個角度來看, 這個人也就變成了加害者的助手....... 因為, 不出聲, 其實還是一種表態, 只是是無聲的。

但其聲響, 無論被害者是否有聽到, 其實在宇宙間, 已經太大聲。

Sometimes, some things, are simply, out of control.

Out of our control. Out of the control of human beings.

One may say something that one thinks is so reasonable yet that same things raises the temper of another.

Why?

One may explain something that one thinks is so important but cannot find the right words and end up messing things up even more.

Why?

In seeking for an answer that does not seem to be lying around anywhere, one stops, and prays.

Then?

Perhaps an answer will come. But in the meantime, one relies on the sending out of the prayer for a moment to

BREATHE.

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I can't believe another year has past...
I can't believe the same problem STILL continues to haunt me...

I sometimes wonder... will I live to see a real, full-blown change that I've been hoping since around 11 years ago?...

How long will I wait? How long SHOULD I wait?

Might these blows be hints from above telling me it's time to move on?

x x x

I often secretly laugh a sarcastic laugh when I hear people say that it is a weak thing for someone to give up...

I laugh because I think those people have not gone through what I am going through...

Giving up in a situation like mine is something that only a person with great strength (both physically and mentally) will be able to accomplish.

I don't have such strength... at least not yet.

人生中, 常聽到的是 Don't give up. Keep trying. You can do it. 等鼓勵的話...

雖然這正面力量是我喜歡的, 但 這也造成有時候, 該放棄了、該轉換跑道了, 卻不知道去哪裡找那勇氣...

不久前, 自己經歷過了自己人生中的一個 crisis... 那時候近乎崩潰, 看到了這篇, 特別有感觸... 雖然到最後沒有 give up, 但是這篇一直深留我心...

http://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-fagan/2012/11/when-its-okay-to-give-up/ (註 1)

(***註 1: 如同上面那篇下方 comments/留言 中有人提起的, 這裡說的應該是 不包含放棄生命, 而是說可以放下現在所走的方向, 換個方向走。 / Note 1: As was noted by some in the Comments area beneath the above-mentioned article, this article did NOT say it's okay to give up on "life".... just saying it's okay to move onto another route.)

或許

真的該教下一代:

要游泳, 要先會學溺水後重生的方式 (註2)
要成功, 要先學會失敗放棄後的再度爬起來

(註2: 還真的有這樣的研究, see: The Teaching of Swimming Based on a Model Derived from the Causes of Drowning - http://tinyurl.com/swimbynotdrowning)

What's the "default" setting in life?

...
..
.

While this may surprise many, I'd argue that the default actually should be described with words like... dirty, mean, messy, ugly, unhealthy, unhappy, yucky, and the like.
.
..
...

I say so because too often people (or even myself) take (good) things for granted.

A city doesn't stay clean by itself. Sanitary workers work hard to take away the trash and clean up the roads.

A person doesn't look amazing simply by breathing and lying around. That beautiful person is pretty usually because s/he has worked for it in some way, such as exercising, choosing healthy foods to eat, and getting some nice accessories (including make-up and clothing) to wear. (Of course, I understand that some may be born pretty... but that's another story... This is written with the average person in mind.)

A food doesn't become delicious and get to the table by accident. There are actually people who take the time to cook to have them that way.

So STOP. Stop believing that those people in uniforms and standing next to garbage trucks don't worth a smile or a thanks from you. Stop believing that people should appear to be pretty by default. Stop believing that a smudge on the floor cancels out the fact that the rest of the floor is not covered by smudges.

START. Start understanding that you owe a non-smelly household and neighborhood to those that pick up the trash from you. Start understanding that people will look even more wonderful if you compliment them, yes, even when they have no make-up on. Start understanding that you can notice the smudge only because the rest of the floor is relatively clean and that someone is (actively/passively) waiting to be thanked.

Taking on this kind of viewpoint on the default of life changes everything.

Life becomes more worthwhile more easily.

世界轉動著
還呼吸著
是好多了

只是 壓力還是有

但最近聽說
壓力

要把它當作是一種身體在跟你說: "我有在努力為你挑戰下個挑戰而運作著" 的訊號

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See: Kelly McGonigal: How to make stress your friend

I have officially lost all psychological support. 

Everyone has seen a glimpse of the big black hole that is devouring me and everyone is running away.

No one is brave enough to try to save me.

I'm forever lost.

Pretense will now be my name.

Cynical?

Yes, unfortunately.

Years and years of trying

I thought I'll get somewhere

But

I am still here.

It will never change, will it?

Too sad to be optimistic.

Help.